Husband Scorned Over Paying for Wife’s Yoga Addiction
Uh oh! Trouble in yogadise. We caught this “Dear Abby”ish article from an exasperated, and rather sadly scorned husband in The Record, Canada’s Kitchener-Waterloo daily paper. Sounds like wifey has seen the light and fallen head over heels for yoga while hubs is left in the dark footing the bill. It started with classes and now it’s progressed into a full-blown retreat addiction! What to do? Could yoga break up a marriage? He hasn’t even mentioned the $100 yoga pants yet.
Q. My wife retired from her part-time job and has taken up yoga in a serious way. She takes a yoga class every day and has also attended yoga weekends, and is now planning to go on a yoga retreat in Bali.
All this takes money and she thinks that since I’m still working, it’s OK for these expenses to come out of our budget even though I get no benefit from this. I’m not even allowed to go on the retreat I’m paying for as a companion.
I have a good income but the unfairness of this bothers me. She never earned as much as me, but she used to be able to pay her own way for her clothes, hairdos, and spending money. What’s your take on the imbalance here?
A. You feel excluded, which is affecting your feelings more than your wallet. Since you haven’t taken up yoga yourself, you might ask her about it and consider taking an occasional class, just so you have more in common to talk about (it’s great for maintaining flexibility and a stress-buster, too).
Suggest meeting her after her workshop to travel in Bali and environs for a couples vacation (Hong Kong’s only several hours flight away).
If the cost of her yoga pursuits increase, and you find it affecting your finances too much, suggest she consider teaching yoga herself but only if you do this as encouragement, not punishment.
[via The Record]
Do you agree? Something tells us they need to explore a little partner yoga, eh? What advice would YOU give?